When a person says they feel guilty it means:
a) they are not taking responsibility for their actions,
so they are feeling uncomfortable for what they have done;
and:
b) they resent you for re-acting.
On the other side, if a person reacts at another persons actions
it is a display of irresponsibility and an attempted form of control:
a) to control their own uncomfortable feelings — by blame;
b) to control the other person so that they do not act in a way that
they do not want them to.
There is never, never, any justification, to another, for blame, anger
and resentment.
Anger to another is always frustration and attempted control because
you are not having things the way you want them to be.
Welcome to planet earth!
Sending you lots of love, and encouragement.
Very, very few make it past this point — including the teachers and gurus.