We are programmed to complain.
If things are not the way our mind has been programmed to see them, it complains.
Even though it seems so obvious that each of us are programmed differently,
we still do it – and feel justified.
We are addicted to complaint.
There are now many research results, and if you want to check this out for yourself,
no need to go into a Brain Scanner, you can feel it. When you complain your whole
system contracts and your energy goes into a lower frequency. It also produces an
electrical/chemical/emotional/mental/physical process. It is poison. Literally.
And not only to you, but to those around you, and no matter how minutely, the
whole universe. Complainers love the company of other complainers.
If I ever gently point out when a person is complaining they often say they are not
complaining, but just saying the way it is. Great theory. Trouble is, it is not the words
that carry the vibrational effect, but the tone. Listen to your voice.
‘Ain’t what you say, it’s the way that you say it.’
The time to be most alert about complaint is when we are tired and/or depressed.
And that is also when we most don’t want to be aware – we just want to sink into
our addiction – and complain.
I really do see it as that important.
To be free you need to you become aware of your complaint, in any form – that sigh/
helplessness/giving up/frustration/impatience/judgement/anger/…
Complaint is not wrong – just not very intelligent.
Complaint brings the dark cloud over the dancing Sun.
Check it out – make it your priority – just for one day – or maybe two?
And gratitude brings the opposite effect – uplifting – to you, those around you,
and the whole of the universes. True.
To feel delightful, keep checking for the things about which you are grateful.
Oh, so, so much.
The addictive part of complaining seems to help shield us from the obvious – change.
If what is happening is not fun/appropriate, we can change it. We can.
But then we would lose our basis for being a victim. We love being a victim – means we
are not responsible. And on some level, we are – for everything in our lives.
Please, don’t skip over this, really take a look.
Most of the things about which we complain we could either change, or accept the
circumstances and be with the maximum potential of the situation.
Trouble is, we want what we want, the way we want it, where we want it, how we want
it, and when we want it and with whom we want it. We are not interested the facts, we just
want what our minds decide.
Except in a very, very, very unusual situation, if we want to be with a partner who is gentle,
strong, quiet, outgoing, funny, intellectual, interesting, stimulating, sees things the way we do,
likes to do the things we like doing – we are going to need at least… well, a male/female harem
or commune.
We let our mind shield us from facts.
We can have more spare time – but we may need to change our job, house etc.
Sometime, sit down and take a look at your life from the perspective of someone else.
Take a look at this persons life, and see if the complaints are justified, or if they could allow
changes that bring more delight.
Once again, nothing wrong, just a matter of being intelligent – or not.