A few things:
First: It is not a matter of trying to get over jealousy, it is a matter of trying to get over
trying to get over jealousy. In the human system, jealousy is a fact. It is built in. It is
part of our survival mechanism. So when someone is jealous, they are jealous. Nothing wrong,
just uncomfortable, for all concerned — to put it mildly. So when the process of jealousy
commences, all that needs to happen is to be aware, and stay out of the mind.
DO NOT THINK ABOUT IT.
Second: You say:
>she still thinks that my non-possessiveness is a statement of non-love for her. <
Of course! In her world, with her conditioning, that is the way it is. No other way.
Unconditional love is unheard of. Unconditional love is very, very rare, anywhere.
Third: It is very very rare for a woman to feel loved by a man. Or the other way around.
In fact, it is very, very rare for anyone to feel loved by anyone. To feel loved you have
to feel lovable. To feel unconditionally lovable you have to be unconditionally loving yourself.
And, please think about this: how loving are you to her! It is not a matter of gifts, or even
what you say, or do. It is the way you are — from an unguarded heart. Are you openly generous
in every way? Are you unconditional? Do you have love in your heart? First, for yourself, then
for her? Do you actually feel it? Do you actually know what love is!
And so on.
Sending you… something that seems to feel like love… Paul