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Every time you get annoyed with someone’s behaviour, it is a part you are avoiding in yourself.
Every single time!
Transcript:
Here’s one other aspect of identifying something you don’t like in a person, and owning it for yourself.
The mind actually works in sort of absolutes. It’s either this, or that. So, if you pick up something you don’t like in the person, and you go to identify it with yourself, you’re likely to think, “Oh, I’m all like that.” and you’re not. You’re not all like that. It’s just a little tiny part, but it feels big. And you’ll find there are many little parts, and none of them are very important or serious. It’s just altogether they add up to being paralyzed in a behavioral pattern. But you take these little ones as fun in people.
Even at the café when you hear somebody talking, if something annoys you, go, “Oh! Is there something there for me?” It’s fun! Because not only is it fun, it … will … set … you … free. You … take on those things, play with them, even exaggerate them. In fact, you can say to your friend, or some friends, “I picked up a particular behavior in me that I’m suppressing, and I’m going to exaggerate it today.” So, if usually you’re very quiet and you don’t like loud people, be loud. And if normally you are very loud and you don’t like quiet people, be very … quiet.
Go to the opposite, or exaggerate it. But don’t stay in the middle, ’cause that’s where you’re stuck. So, in case I didn’t … make that clear, either exaggerate it, or go the opposite. And then, you’ll start to see it more clearly.
And again, let me tell you again. You … will … set … yourself … free … from these old behaviors you picked up when you were young. Free! And then, you will no longer even consider how people think about you. Whether they like you or dislike, it won’t matter, because you’re you.
You’re free!